Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson Ph.D.
The New Year is just around the corner, with it comes reminders about creating a New Year’s resolution. Ah, I have a love and hate relationship with this one. I love it because the new year seems to bring that feeling of new beginnings, of clean slate and fresh starts, so it’s perfect time for setting a new goals for the rest of the year. But then, I hate also because after about 3 weeks or so, all that enthusiasm that I had for the new goal seems to disappear and my new year resolution along with it. It gets frustrating after a while, frustrating enough to put me off from the whole thing. My mindset was I must be bad with this whole goal setting thing, and I just don’t have enough self-discipline to do it for the whole year, so I just won’t bother with it.
But I now realized that I’ve been looking at it all wrong, I was looking at goal setting as either something I can or can not do, an inborn trait of sorts. Not as a skill that I can learn to do, improve on and be better at. In reading this book Succeed: How we can reach our goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson, I learned all about goal setting. I learned the following lessons:
- how to choose the right goals which will make me happy
- that there are different approaches to goal setting, learning which one we usually use and which one to use in different situations can be a great advantage
- steps and strategies for more effective goal setting
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Better Than Before : Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin
Habits are something we do automatically without much conscious thought. Humans are creatures of habit. The habits we form can be harmful or beneficial to us, and it can also be something that we intentionally set for ourselves or something that we unintentionally formed because of our environment or our situation. Habits get formed either way, so it’s best if we take advantage of our brain’s amazing ability to form habits to our advantage. Better than Before gives a detailed and concrete guide of how we can do that.
And it starts with the realization of the important of connection of habit and decision making,
Habits make change possible by freeing us from decision making and from using self-control.
Eliminating the daily decision making that takes up willpower and energy is the real benefit of forming habits. With the decision already made, we can focus on the doing rather than the deciding.
Habits = Freedom
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