The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play
by Neil A. Fiore
Have you ever procrastinated?
It’s frustrating isn’t it? Wanting to make yourself do something you know you should do but just not being able to do it. In fact, the more you tell yourself that you should do it, the more you don’t feel like doing it.
Procrastinators know that feeling very well. Have you ever wondered why that happens? I used to think it’s because it’s an inherent personality trait, that some people are just born lazy and some are not. But this book argues otherwise.
We procrastinate not because we are born lazy or we are inherently flawed. We procrastinate because we want some relief from stress. Stress caused by fears we associate with the task we need to do. This includes fears imperfection, fears of failing, fears of being judged ( we think that our work is a direct reflection of our worth).
The fears signals threat to our brains. We respond and try to cope by by avoiding the cause of the stress altogether – by procrastinating. This brings us relief. The relief is only for the short term though, in the long term, it just sabotages our goals and waste the most important, non-renewable resource, we have – time. If our response to a task we deem threatening is procrastination, therefore, the book suggest, the solution we can focus on is to make the task feel safe and unthreatening.
How do we do that? Continue reading →
The Power of When: Discover Your Chronotype–and the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask for a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More by Michael Breus
What if you could be more productive not by doing more or changing how you do things but just by changing when you do things?
What if there’s a right timing for doing things, and finding the optimal time to them, you can, not only make you more productive but happier as well?
Nice thought isn’t it?
As it turns out, there is a right timing for just about everything we do.
I’m an early riser, I’ve been one since I was a kid. I thought that was the norm because I grew up in a home where everybody woke up early too. Not until I went to college and lived with three other roommates, did I find out that it’s not actually common.
You would think that waking up early is always a good thing. That’s not really the case though when you’re a college student who, aside from wanting to study also wants to have an active social life. One that involved staying up late to do the said socializing. I tried changing my natural sleeping patterns to solve the problem, but I found it so difficult.
I thought back then that being able to wake up early was just a force habit but after reading the Power of When, I learned that it is actually genetic. Continue reading →
Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson Ph.D.
The New Year is just around the corner, with it comes reminders about creating a New Year’s resolution. Ah, I have a love and hate relationship with this one. I love it because the new year seems to bring that feeling of new beginnings, of clean slate and fresh starts, so it’s perfect time for setting a new goals for the rest of the year. But then, I hate also because after about 3 weeks or so, all that enthusiasm that I had for the new goal seems to disappear and my new year resolution along with it. It gets frustrating after a while, frustrating enough to put me off from the whole thing. My mindset was I must be bad with this whole goal setting thing, and I just don’t have enough self-discipline to do it for the whole year, so I just won’t bother with it.
But I now realized that I’ve been looking at it all wrong, I was looking at goal setting as either something I can or can not do, an inborn trait of sorts. Not as a skill that I can learn to do, improve on and be better at. In reading this book Succeed: How we can reach our goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson, I learned all about goal setting. I learned the following lessons:
- how to choose the right goals which will make me happy
- that there are different approaches to goal setting, learning which one we usually use and which one to use in different situations can be a great advantage
- steps and strategies for more effective goal setting
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Lately I have been obsessed about the concept of productivity, I’ve been reading and taking notes about it a lot. I wanted to learn strategies that would help build the habit of being productive. So when I saw that there’s a Free to Focus Productivity Summit being hosted by Micheal Hyatt that’s going on online , I jumped at a chance to join in. It’s a week long event ( Sept 1-8, 2016) where guests are interviewed on what the best ways to be productive.
I thought I’d take notes, reflect on the things I learned and figure out how I can apply these strategies in my own life. Continue reading →